Social Development
Analysis_Part 1
On the next analysis I took the definitions, concepts and advice that I thought
would be
more easy to understand and helpful for a teenager like me.
1.
Well-being and positive relations:
Well being: Well-being is
a positive outcome that is meaningful for people and for many sectors of
society, because it tells us that people perceive that their lives are going
well. Good living conditions (e.g., housing, employment) are fundamental to
well-being.
Positive
interpersonal relationships: Positive Interpersonal relationships are social
connections with others. They can be brief or enduring. We experience a variety
of interpersonal relationships on a daily basis with family, friends,
significant others and people at our workplace. While every relationship is
unique, there are some common themes that influence the health and continuation
of all relationships.
Relationship
between the concepts: Relationships and interactions with other
people are a very important part of humans, which is why I think that they are
also an essential part for defying our well-being.
Effects
of good interpersonal relationships:
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Make
you feel like you belong and are valued.
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Increase your confidence.
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Provide understanding, respect,
trust and care.
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Support you to try out ideas and new
things, or to discuss your opinions.
·
Provide a safe place to be and learn
about yourself.
Effects
of bad interpersonal relationships: A hard thing about
relationships is that you do not have control of what the other person or
people do. Sometimes relationships can contribute to things like stress,
depression, loss of self-esteem or confidence, and even physical illness. It is
important to think about the things that you can do to protect or care for
yourself and your health.
Recommendations:
If you want to know how your relationship is going, you
should try this!
Think of a person you know. Close
your eyes and think about time you spend with her or him.
·
How do you feel when you are around
her or him?
·
What happens in the relationship for
you to feel that way?
·
What does he or she tell you about
yourself? (this might not be in words – the messages we get about ourselves in
relationships can be very subtle).
2.
Values:
basic foundation for dignity among interpersonal relationships.
Human dignity: An individual or group's sense of
self-respect and self-worth, physical and psychological integrity and
empowerment.
How does human
dignity reflect on healthy interpersonal relationships?
When an individual has human dignity we know for sure
that he or she will have good interpersonal relationships. Therefore we can say
that human dignity plays a key part on having a good relationship.
Must-be-Values in a
positive interpersonal relationship:
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Respect
- no put-downs, each of you having the right to have an opinion, to be listened
to, and being able to voice what you think and feel.
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Trust
·
Honesty
- openness and honesty about what you think, feel and do.
·
Safety
- feeling safe from physical, emotional, sexual or other forms of harm.
·
Equality
- look out for power in relationships and who holds it – feeling powerless or
more powerful than another person can affect your health.
·
Consistency
- you know where you and others stand.
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Value
- you feel valued and you value the other person.
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Security
and loyalty - you feel safe that both parties value the relationship.
·
Empathy
- listening and understanding each other - putting yourself in the other
person’s shoes.
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Genuineness
– it is a human, natural and honest relationship.
Strategies to develop relations based on values and respect:
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Ensure that the relationship you
have with yourself is a positive one.
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Accept and celebrate the fact that
we are all different.
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Actively listen to hear what other
people have to say.
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Give people time and “be present”
when you are with them.
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Develop and work on your
communication skills.
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Manage mobile technology and be
aware of its pitfalls.
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Learn to give and take constructive
feedback.
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Open your heart and find the courage
to trust.
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Learn to be more understanding and
empathetic.
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Treat people as you would like to be
treated yourself.
3.
Personal Decisions: the power of defining my relations
Characteristics of healthy
interpersonal relations:
A healthy relationship is when people
develop a connection based on:
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Mutual respect
·
Trust
·
Honesty
·
Support
·
Fairness/equality
·
Separate identities
·
Good communication
·
A sense of playfulness/fondness
Characteristics of unhealthy interpersonal relationships:
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Feel pressure to change who you are
for the other person
·
Feel worried when you disagree with
the other person
·
Feel pressure to quit activities you
usually/used to enjoy
·
Pressure the other person into
agreeing with you or changing to suit you better
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Notice one of you has to justify
your actions (e.g., where you go, who you see)
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Notice arguments are not settled
fairly
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Experience yelling or physical
violence during an argument
·
Attempt to control or manipulate
each other
How to
set boundaries:
I think that to improve our personal
relationships first we should take a look and see the areas that we need to
improve, and then we need to research how we can improve them. I think that
talking with teachers or with your parents will help too. Asking for advice is
always a good idea.
Personal freedom: freedom of the person in
going and coming, equality before the courts, security of private property,
freedom of opinion and its expression, and freedom of conscience subject to the
rights of others and of the public.
Free will: the ability to choose how to act
Decision making: the
act or process of deciding something especially with a group of people
I think that setting our
boundaries and knowing when is enough is our best tool to determine if
something can hurt us on a relationship. For example when you are arguing with
a friend, you will fight and argue till you reach your boundaries. You have to
know them really well to take of yourself and to not get hurt.
4. Empathy: I matter and others do too.
Empathy: It is the psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another. It is important on a relationship because if we have it we are not selfish and by showing it we can demonstrate our affection to the other person.
Effective
communication: It's about understanding the emotion
and intentions behind the information. It’s not only how you convey a message
so that it is received and understood by someone in exactly the way you
intended, it’s also how you listen to gain the full meaning of what’s being
said and to make the other person feel heard and understood. More than just the
words you use, effective communication combines a set of skills including
nonverbal communication, engaged listening, managing stress in the moment, the
ability to communicate assertively, and the capacity to recognize and
understand your own emotions and those of the person you’re communicating with.
Effective communication is the glue that helps you deepen your connections to
others and improve teamwork, decision making, and problem solving. It enables
you to communicate even negative or difficult messages without creating
conflict or destroying trust.
How to
communicate and dialogue with
others in an assertive way and resilient way:
Assertive: confident in behavior or style
Resilient: able to become strong, healthy, or successful again
after something bad happens
To communicate with others in an
assertive and resilient way we must have a series of values and moral traits
such as empathy, respect, forgiveness, human dignity etc. If we know how to communicate with others our
interpersonal relationships will be successful and will last a lifetime.
Strategies for good communication:
·
Become
a good listener
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Pay
attention to non-verbal signs
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Keep stress in check
